What the Ha-yell reports:
There’s trifling; then there’s Triflin‘ — and ex-Falcon player, Bob Whitfield puts the ‘T’ in triflin’. In a sad episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta, designer, socialite, part-time actress and full-time diva, Sheree Whitfield, had an upsetting conversation with her ex-husband Bob, during which he told her that he had no intentions on ever paying child support.
His reason?
Because Sheree makes ample money on her own, lives well and is an “able-bodied” woman who has been doing a fantastic job taking care of the children by herself.
That would explain why he hasn’t paid not one thin dime of child-support in four years!
When she threatened to take him to court to get what is owed to their children, Bob told her to “do what you gotta do.” Sheree stormed off, after throwing water at Bob, who sat there without a care in the world while their children played nearby, oblivious to the fact that their father didn’t feel that he owed them any support outside what he provides when they’re physically with him.
Weigh in WTH Fam: If both parents are independently wealthy, should the father pay child-support in the event of a divorce?
First and foremost, we’re not talking about welfare cases here. These are well-to-do people who are more financially stable than most others.
Child support is a very sticky subject: while I believe that a man should pay to support his children, how much he should pay is the devil in the details that’s staring at us, especially in this situation.
If the ex-wife is financially stable, should he pay the same as if she weren’t? And if he should lose his ability to pay (job loss, end of career a la Terrell Owens, etc), then what would he be allowed to pay to satisfy his legal obligation if he no longer has the same type of high-level employment he once had?You may not have much sympathy or understanding for the man in this position, but if the shoe were on your foot, you’d definitely understand his position.Again, I’m definitely in favor of children being supported. I feel that the laws are too draconian when it comes to differing circumstances and these should therefore be submitted as mitigating circumstances when determining the amount of monthly compensation the woman receives.
He absolutely should be paying child support. I don’t care if his ex has billions on top of billions. If he helped make them, then it’s his responsibility to help support them. I don’t care how little his income is. He is suppose to help support his kids. The same goes if the shoe was on the other foot. It would be different if he was a stay-at-home father, as long as he is contributing.
This is why I was saying that this is not some type of welfare case, where the children are hungry and in need of new shoes simply because their old ones are worn down or they’ve outgrown them.
When you have a situation like this, it’s a business deal, not a marriage. The divorce, then is also a business deal.
He’s allowed himself to be humiliated in front of millions of people and be painted as a real villain. It’s a business deal! She knows it, he knows it.
I hope that their children see that their parents are playing pretend, because if they aren’t pretending, then their lives are being played out in front of everyone-and that’s embarrassing.
Talk about scarring children for life…
We’re usually hearing from the mother in most cases, and most men are portrayed as deadbeats. That’s beyond unfair.
The man’s side isn’t being told: if he is paying, yet he isn’t allowed to see his children, is the mother labelled a deadbeat mom? No.
If he is contributing, if he faces a layoff or drastic reduction in salary, what can he do to keep from being thrown in jail arbitrarily because he can’t make his payments, let alone his rent or car payments?
I’m saying that the man can’t win here: in divorce, she gets the children, she gets paid child support. The only thing he gets is time with his children, but the courts rarely enforce father’s rights to visitation-unless the father’s rich and has high-powered lawyers (and if there was a prenup).
This is why I was saying that this is not some type of welfare case, where the children are hungry and in need of new shoes simply because their old ones are worn down or they’ve outgrown them.
When you have a situation like this, it’s a business deal, not a marriage. The divorce, then is also a business deal.
He’s allowed himself to be humiliated in front of millions of people and be painted as a real villain. It’s a business deal! She knows it, he knows it.
I hope that their children see that their parents are playing pretend, because if they aren’t pretending, then their lives are being played out in front of everyone-and that’s embarrassing.
Talk about scarring children for life…
We’re usually hearing from the mother in most cases, and most men are portrayed as deadbeats. That’s beyond unfair.
The man’s side isn’t being told: if he is paying, yet he isn’t allowed to see his children, is the mother labelled a deadbeat mom? No.
If he is contributing, if he faces a layoff or drastic reduction in salary, what can he do to keep from being thrown in jail arbitrarily because he can’t make his payments, let alone his rent or car payments?
I’m saying that the man can’t win here: in divorce, she gets the children, she gets paid child support. The only thing he gets is time with his children, but the courts rarely enforce father’s rights to visitation-unless the father’s rich and has high-powered lawyers (and if there was a prenup).
Also: we’ve been hearing about Bob Whitfield for years and his not paying child support. Now, he shows his face on the show and allows himself to be humiliated.
Sheree is a businesswoman who totally understands that her position in the business world is now heightened: more people will buy into her and whatever she is selling simply because she’s a “sad, single woman with a ‘dog’ for an ex-husband”.
He just paid her a ton in child support indirectly just by showing up in front of national tv and allowing himself to be humiliated. If she takes him to court (I don’t believe she will, because she loses her upper hand), she weakens her position and standing-and exposes this as the business deal that it really is.
Business deals like this make everything negotiable:he signed to allow his children to be shown on the show, he shows up on the show himself-and allows himself to be humiliated, she gets perpetual “righteous victim” status, etc.
Ladies, please realize that when you’re a reality tv star, you’re in the position of putting everyone in your personal life on display for money. The front door to your house is open- for everyone to see.
This is why so many marriages fail when they allow the tv cameras to come into their home: someone is portrayed in a negative light, and this is the subject of tons of arguments after the cameras have left. Privacy has been sold away, and people are embarrassed at home, in front of their family. That is often too much to bear for people to live through.
Anybody calling themselves a whole man should not have to be asked to pay child support. The question of should he have to payshould be, Are those his children???
I feel that when the children lives with the father half of the time and the mother the other half he shouldn’t be required to pay child support. As Bob told Sheree she is out there trying to live above her means bbuilding a Chateau mansion, and buying Gucci, Dolce, and other expensive things and trying to pretend that she is soooo rich she does not need child support. She needs to come down off her high horses and stop trying to hang with Phaedar, Kim, and Cynthia and put the money on the kids.
Really, we all know that some women use child support as a weapon against men who don’t marry them. If she is independently wealthy, I don’t see the logic in him paying child support. It makes no sense.
Are you kidding me!! I don’t care if she makes a million dollars a day, those are his kids too, he has a responsibility to show his children that he cares and loves them by participating in their upbringing even if its’ just spending a saturday with them which according to the show he has done none of that. He made himself look like a fool by saying point blank that he’s not going to help take care of the children and for her to go ahead and take him to court. I hope the judge awards her any dreams that he may have for the future as well as the back-pay child support that she is owed.
Ladydragon, this couple divorced some years ago. She received over a million dollars in compensation, including their home, $113,000/yr. + $2,000/mo. in child support.
She said that this wasn’t enough and appealed the decision. His appearance was an indirect payment of child support-her business will get more clients based on the sheer notoriety of this issue. He told her that the NFL pays her, and she is living too extravagant and beyond her means. He can’t pay her enough money when she spends it like it’s too hot to hold on to. Please, let’s take a moment and pause here: if you were a man, and gave your ex-wife money, how would you feel when you constantly give her more and more money when you see her mismanaging the money she’s already getting? She’s not poor, and this isn’t a welfare case we’re talking about. As I said earlier, this is a business deal. See it for what it is. His appearance on the show actually weakens her, not him. She’s not destitute.
DollarsDoug… Your facts are wrong. He never paid child support that the court ordered, in addition the court ordered him to pay her $775000….that was in 2005…he has only paid $425000… He was awarded the homes…including the one Sheree lived in on the first episode of rhoa. That home was worth 2.4 million. Soooo he really has only given her $425,000. The $2100/month child support has never been paid.
Secondly, if he feels she doesn’t deserve that much money then why did he agree to the divorce settlement in 2005? Furthermore, if in all these years he thinks she is an able body women… Why not go back to the courts and ask for a change. At this point, he does not have an agreement between himself and Sheree… He has an agreement between the State of Georgia and himself.
Finally, I want to say this: it is very frustrating to see so many people with lack of knowledge of te facts just rant their opinions like it’s the gospel.
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All the info I wrote is public record. So, before you speak it would seem smart of you to verify what you say….
If you read my comment, I did say that she appealed the court’s decision. This is, as I said earlier twice, a business deal. Even the appearance on the reality show is a part of that business deal. Never forget that. Is it gospel or opinion to state that? No-it is sheer fact. When she appealed the court’s decision, it opened the door to all kinds of issues. This meant that she didn’t accept the decision by the court, yet she was allowed to live in the home that he was awarded-you admit that yourself. This shows that this is a business deal.
Fathers should pay child support he enjoyed maki them he did not say wait if we make a child I’m not going to pay child ssupport so why not pay they are your kids to if the shoe was on the other foot he would be dragging her to court every day and at the same time telling the kids your mom don’t want you with nothing she won’t pay your child support and she don’t love you.
Gutless deadbeat men are a problem across the country. However, there is no male community on earth that abandons it’s women and children with as much success and glee as black men in America. She married a black man, knowing the statistics of fatherless black children this should not have come as a suprise.
I give all props to negros ballers that won’t pay child support because they are supporting other more important habits like the new white girlfriend, cocaine, and stylin with bros. It is important for a young or old brother to maintain appearances than to take care of kids. That is what the mother is for. Get real. And we the public love them and support them in their cause to be cool with the homeys.
Logic???
HE IS THE FATHER.
HE IS RESPONSIBLE FOR AT LEAST 1/2 of their CARE. Who are you that you don’t understand that.
THINK! You sound jealous of her.
He is their father. They live with her and visit him.
They have both their blood, judge needs to assess the cost of caring for them and he needs to be responsible for his half of their blood,
It sounds as if you have personal insight into their divorce. Which one holds custody? He presents as psychotic more than humiliated. Is he?
no child spprt for four years dude
Heavy Sarcasm! I hope.
I hope you never find yourself in family court trying to divorce someone who is after your money, because you won’t be singing the same tune. Sherree Whitfield is a steriotypical money grubbing ex, Bob is the one who got her on the show, the show edits people how they want to look. Sharee is saying he is a deadbeat but there is no proof in fact that he does not pay. Obviously this women lives way beyond her means and does not pay her own bills, thus her other divorce attorneys have sued her and her luxury vehicles have been taken to settle her dept. You really think the money is going to the kids, it’s going to her new house becasue “she doesn’t live in used houses” Save you anger for a women that really needs the suport, not a women who doesn’t feel it’s enough support but does not work, and didn’t go to college to further herself
Ablebodiedchick, what public records have you checked becasue you don’t know what your talking about. Media take out has pulled the actual court documents dated Aug. 25th 2009. The real reason Bob is not paying her child support is because she defrauded him out of their marital home and before she will get a dime of her child support the court has ordered her to pay him $425,000 The original divorce stated that they would sell the marital house and split it and Bob woul give her an additional 425K. Bob was supposed to give her 25K upfront and another 400K when the house sold. Bob paid her the original 425K, pluse the 25K for the house, Sheree asked Bob for the additional 400K from the sale of the marital property up front so she could find another home, Bob paid her that too. After Sheree got the money she filed multiple lawsuits challenging the original agreement, refused to leave the marital property and did not pay the mortgage on the marital property, which went into default and was eventually foreclosed on. Sheree lost all her appeals and Bob lost all the equity in the home. The courts admonished Sheree and she owes Bob that money.
It’s a sad situation all around. I know we only see snipits on TV but it doesn’t appear to be a real relationship between the Dad and the kids. Again I know we the viewers don’t see everything. Bob must know how stupid he looked.
you have every fact incorrect. she was to get the 400,000 AFTER the house sold but told him to give it to her now and HE did. BUT then she sat in the house without paying the mortgage and it went in to foreclosure so their was no equity for him to recover his share. Read mediatakeout. Read the court documents she was being deceitful and got caught. If she was SO WRONGED, why didn’t she go to court. She has unclean hands and would be called on it. There are updates all over the net.
MEN with money should LEAST OUT THE WOMB OF WOMEN AND THEN GET A HOUSEKEEPER TO HELP RAISE THEM , THAT’S ALL WOMEN ARE DOING THESES DAYS USING THEIR WOMBS AS A PAYDAY, THIS AINT ABOUT PARENTING ITS ABOUT MONEY GRABBING WOMEN. $50 or less a week is enough to feed at least 1 child , if you know how to cook which MOST THESES WOMEN DONT KNOW HOW TO DO EXCEPT HAVE SEX , GO TO THE MALL AND SHOP.
I don’t care about HER finances. She didn’t get pregnant on her own. Sounds like this triflin man is thinking with his ego instead of his head. How much money she makes is not the issue and none of his business. Only triflin ass men come up with this kind of crap to avoid being responsible.
Only lazy trifflin ass women like yourself use the kids as meal ticket only because ur lazy asses dont want to work. Gestating a child is not a meal ticket you pay 1/2 he pays 1/2 , that what you burnt your funky ass braziers for . Disgusting
She’s working. Is she supposed to care for the children by herself? He’s not giving her a “dime”. What are his responsibilities????
Must this really be discussion? You have children you take care of them cut and dry!!!!!!!!
Are you crazy, You have children you take care of your children cut and dry!!!!!! Or don’t have children. This has nothing to do with women, if he was a man looking for child support from her same thing. You have children you take care of them cut and dry no explanation needed!! Done!!! Take care of your responsibility they did not ask to be born. I did not say take care of her Take care of your children at all times!!! Men especially our men have to have this explained to them for some reason. If you have children I hope no one has to tell you take care of your children!!
Again you must be a dead beat, this has nothing to do with women, it has to do with taking care of your children. If she does not cook so what as long as the children are feed and taken care of well and have a roof over their heads. Luxury is something else but the necessities are needed and a responsible parent does that. You have children then you take care of them cut and dry!!!!!!! Again men need to take responsibilities for their dumb mistake instead of worrying about if she has a big ass or chasing superficial women then having children with them !! You knew who you were dating when you met them. That goes for the complaining ass men that don’t do any homework or take time to know who they are sleeping with. They rather complain like yourself. Have a high standard for yourself if you lay down with dogs you wake up with fleas!!!!!!!!!!!! Birds of a feather you get what you are looking for!!!!!
Hope you are being sarcastic!
Hope you don’t have any children if you feel like this!
If you have children you take care of them cut and dry!! You see what I said. Take care of your children. I hope you don’t have any they will hate and resent you because of your mentality. If you have children you take care of them cut and dry it is your duty they did not ask to be born or have an Abortion or give the children away and hope they do not find a pedophile!! People like you give humans a bad name!!
You have children you take care of them cut and dry. people do not have children alone. It takes two to have a child and two too take care of them and make sure they are not Fucked up like yourself, since your comment show that you are fucked up. I hope your parents took care of you. If you have children they must be taken care of by both parents cut and dry. If they are with the father they must be taken care of by the mother also. If they are with their mother then the father needs to take care of his children. Children are so messed up because of irresponsible horny people like yourself that feel they should not be taken care of by parents because they share the children>
Again, the message is missed. IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN I DON’T CARE IF YOU ARE THE KING OF THE WORLD OR THE POOREST MAN ON EARTH!!!! IF YOU HAVE CHILDREN THEY MUST BE TAKEN CARE OF BY BOTH PARENTS!! IF THEY LIVED WITH HIM THEN SHE SHOULD TAKE CARE OF THEM ALSO AND IF THEY LIVE WITH HER THEN HE NEEDS TO HANDLE HIS BUSINESS AS WELL. STOP HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX GROWN ASS PEOPLE IF YOU DO NOT WANT CHILDREN!!!
Let me get this str8 , he been paying for the kids and supporting her up
until the last 4 years and she could hold that down , damn . HE gave
her a nice ass house and he got his, both with his NFL money , now that
she making money she cant hold up the rear for the last 4 years and the
kids almost damn near grown. Damn, what woulda happen if he was cripple
in 1 of those football games ? Then wat ?. When u rich get with a rich
female. Das wat u get wen u get a female with just ass & no money.